Couples Can Do Relationship Repair with a Solution That Works

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Creative Conflict Resolutions, a conflict resolution group that focuses on troubled marriages, has now released a brand-new 4 week program that helps couples do relationship repair, and resolve debilitating issues quickly, before the marriage reaches breaking point. The program is completely free, and is called “National Relationships Repair Month.”

After registering for free access to the program, members will be able to read and discuss content that is uploaded. The content varies for each week in the program, with helpful books, PDFs, presentations and other media to help illustrate what Creative Conflict Resolutions feel are the “key” relationship concepts every couple should understand. Members can then participate on the online forum with both conflict resolution experts and other members themselves.

Neil Warner, the co-owner of Creative Conflict Resolutions, is excited to see how many positive responses the program has already received. “Conflict in relationships is a big problem,” said Warner, “but not because conflict is a problem. It’s because couples don’t know how to deal with it.” With their new “National Relationships Repair Month” program, Creative Conflict Resolutions aims to teach couples new, positive ways of handling conflict, so that the relationship can improve instead of stagnating.

“National Relationships Repair Month” is free and available for any person and/or couple wishing to find immediate relationship help. It can be found at National Relationships Month.

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You are invited to improve your relationships!

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As part of the permanent effort that we do here at Creative Conflict Resolutions, to provide skills to connect better with loved ones, this week we are offering a free open site where you can learn how to repair relationships just in time for the holidays.

The site is: http://nationalrelationshipsmonth.com/relationship/you-can-begin-your-learning-here-and-now/

You can register and begin reading our interesting short papers, or asking questions from the experts. Don’t let this honest opportunity to do relationship repair go away!

Neil Warner

 

 

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Managing Passive Aggression

 

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Have you had experiences were you knew that managing passive aggression was a must? If you are a veteran of “office wars,” then you have experienced a lot of backstabbing, sabotage and nasty behaviors.

As a normal consequence, you think that there is very little to be done to control this competitive behavior. You have become resigned to a certain degree of aggression every day in the office.

The ones that bother most are not the openly competitive people, because you know what they want, and there are no surprises in them getting ahead to snag the best projects, and commissions.

What you don’t prepare for is the slow sabotage of certain people who feign cooperation and dedication, only to produce consistent failures.

If you were expecting someone to do a shared project, and your own evaluation is supposed to be in the whole project, but one part is not forthcoming, then what do you do? There were lots of promises, guarantees and strong words, but no results. And you don’t know if to believe this person, or to accept that the project is doomed and you are responsible very soon to report a failure.

Here is when the rubber meets the road:

You are realizing that his delay is intentional and focused on making you fail!

Difficult to believe, but no other plausible explanations are around, so you need to accept you’ve been blindsided by this person.

What do you do: have a strong discussion or say nothing? Knowing that a passive aggressive person won’t fight back, they can clam up, give you the cold shoulder, tell you what you want to hear, or burst into tears and run away.

If you show your anger, passive aggressive people will be less cooperative, stop communicating and confirm that you are his enemy, so becoming more hostile and resentful, even to the point of planning his revenge. Then, how do you manage this potentially explosive situation?

For some reason we have been conditioned to avoid any kind of open confrontation, even the healthy ones, and to try to keep up with a forced situation that doesn’t deserve to be called “peace,” but an angry truce.

Let’s go back to the basic situation, where you are a team leader, or a manager, and you have someone in your team behaving in this way. Of course, you know that this person is immature, that his PA behavior is a defense mechanism, and all that. Anyhow, this person is not responding to you!

Now, it becomes really personal…and you shift from an outsider’s view to a very interested insider, because the action is against you or your work objectives…You now realize that the passive aggressive person’s goal is an attempt to control his environment, meaning by that you and your responses. He is controlling at least the time of delivery of this shared project!

What can you do?

If you have identified already the presence of this kind of behavior, you know that you have always to design an alternative plan “B” which can provide you with the extra help needed to deliver the project done in time and quality.

If not, then the choice is to continue expecting from him the delivery of his task, or replacing him. In both ways, the “solution” will leave a bad taste in the relationship. The first lesson, “never trust your own evaluation to the hands of other person who cold be passive aggressive”  . In brief, control your expectations, parcel out important tasks so there are several responsible people involved, and re-check frequently to see how much delay the PA can generate before you stop him.

Neil Warner

Neil Warner

I’m the “relationship guru,” and my main focus is to increase the quality of interpersonal experiences. In this ground-breaking guide I offer useful strategies on healing a difficult angry relationship with positive strategies. You don’t have to stay in a risky workplace relationship one more minute. Let us share our tools with you today. Get your own copy of the book “Passive Aggressive Workplace,” here, and begin managing your environment better!

 

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Dealing with a Passive Aggressive Boss?

 

Are you dealing with a Passive Aggressive Boss Now?

There are some characteristics of a passive aggressive manager, which in present times look like the necessary tools for survival of the meanest. These tactics sometimes get confused within the authority aura that higher ups exude, but after some time there is no more denial possible.

Your own reactions are telling you to watch out and not be surprised by some backstabbing and dirty tricks.

Have you been in the receiving end of someone of the following “nice” attitudes?

1) The boss that takes full credit from the team’s work thus sabotaging employee advancement;
2) The boss keeps complete control over the project;
3) The boss restrict necessary information for the worker to do a good job;
4) Planning for meetings with the employee and showing up later or never;
5) Overriding the worker’s authority with his team;
6) Criticizing an employee in public, making him feel worthless;
7) Exploiting an employee’s particular talent;
8 ) Withholding employee recognition and praise;
9) Playing another worker against old time employee;
10) Micro-managing decisions which are in the employee power to do.

It’s not easy to survive in jobs where leadership is developing this dangerous attitude. You need a minimum of trust in your work environment to be able to concentrate day to day in what needs to be done according to your job description….

Why is it so difficult to find leaders you can trust?

A risky work environment is stressful, and you pay a high price for keeping a job in a team you have no confidence in. It can force you to get help for issues of anger management, or stress management, or develop by necessity new skills in understanding passive aggression in the work place.

Whatever it takes, it needs to be done if you want to keep a measure of rationality doing a job under a boss that is a challenge in himself!

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Do you have a passive aggressive boss?

passive aggressive boss

Do you have a passive aggressive boss?

There are some characteristics of a passive aggressive manager, which in present times look like the necessary tools for survival of the meanest. These tactics sometimes get confused within the authority aura that higher-ups exude, but after some time there is no more denial possible. Your own reactions are telling you to watch out and not be surprised by some backstabbing and dirty tricks.

Have you been in the receiving end of someone of the following “nice attitudes”?

  1. The boss that takes full credit from the team’s work thus sabotaging employee advancement;
  2. The boss keeps complete control over the project;
  3. The boss restrict necessary information for the worker to do a good job;
  4. Planning for meetings with the employee and showing up later or never;
  5. Overriding the worker’s authority with his team;
  6. Criticizing an employee in public, making him feel worthless;
  7. Exploiting an employee’s particular talent;
  8. Withholding employee recognition and praise;
  9. Playing another worker against old-time employee;
  10. Micro-managing decisions which are in the employee power to do.

It’s not easy to survive in jobs where leadership is developing this dangerous attitude.

You need a minimum of trust in your work environment to be able to concentrate day-to-day in what needs to be done according to your job description….

Why is it so difficult to find leaders you can trust?

A risky work environment is stressful, and you pay a high price for keeping a job in a team you have no confidence in. It can force you to get help for issues of anger management, or stress management, or develop by necessity new skills in understanding passive aggression in the work place. Whatever it takes, it needs to be done if you want to keep a measure of rationality doing a job under a boss that is a challenge in himself!

Neil Warner

Neil Warner

I’m the “relationship guru,” and my main focus is to increase the quality of interpersonal experiences. In this ground-breaking guide I offer useful strategies on healing a difficult angry relationship with positive strategies. You don’t have to stay in a risky workplace relationship one more minute. Let us share our tools with you today. Get your own copy of the e-book “Passive Aggressive Workplace,” here, and begin managing your environment better!

 

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